Tell me what you want…

People are often frustrated because they don’t have what they want – the right job, the right relationship, the right home… They can tell you all the things they don’t want, but not always what it is that they do want.

If we’re not clear about what we want, it’s hardly surprising that we feel that we don’t have it!

Knowing what it is we don’t want can be a useful starting point and for some, it can motivate them into taking action to avoid it. However, it’s not a productive thinking place to spend much time. Much more useful to move towards figuring out what it is we really want and then how to make that happen.

This can take some work – not least because of the inner chatter which will try and dissuade us from the new and exciting. A good starting point and one which deals with this internal naysayer is:

‘If you could be certain of success, what would you do?’

Once you can answer that question, fill it out, add the detail. Once you know what you want, you’ll have a much better chance of making it happen not least because you can work out how to do that and you’ll recognise it when it becomes real.